When my husband revealed to me his losing battle with pornography, I didn’t know if I would ever be able to forgive him.
Walking in forgiveness has been a long known concept, I thought I understood until I was really tested in this area.
Forgiveness is not:
- a feeling
- rehashing events in your mind or with your words
- bringing up past sin and/mistakes
- expecting someone to fail again in the same area
- dependent on someone’s repentance
What the Bible says about forgiveness:
” But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:15
( Context: Parable of the Sower)
“And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” Matthew 18:34-35
“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
How does God forgive:
“As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.” Psalm 103:12
“No more shall every man teach his neighbor, and every man his brother, saying, ‘Know the Lord,’ for they all shall know Me, from the least of them to the greatest of them, says the Lord. For I will forgive their iniquity, and their sin I will remember no more.”
Practices to remember about forgiveness…If you are walking in forgiveness:
- You will not bring up the offense again.
- You will not dwell on the offense when it pops into your mind.
- You will not be continually expecting the other person to fail.
Walking in forgiveness takes effort and practice. Prayer and time in the word allow forgiveness to be possible in seemingly impossible circumstances.
A couple interesting principles on forgiveness:
When Jesus sat with the apostles at the last supper, He told them there was someone who would betray him. No one even suspected who it was. Have you ever thought about the fact Jesus knew the entire time who would betray him but He didn’t treat him any differently. Isn’t that amazing!!
Our Jesus, our example of what to be, also forgave to the point of death not only for us, but for those who were beating Him even in the very moment they were persecuting him. We do not need to wait for repentance from the wrongful party to forgive completely.
And so we should strive to forgive the way our Savior did, the way the Bible calls us to and not fall in line with our cultural norms of forgiveness being a feeling which requires no action on our part.
Let it go, dear friends. Whatever the offense, go before our Lord, remember what you have been forgiven and just walk in forgiveness. Choose joy and thankfulness and take captive your thoughts. It will not always be easy, but in the end our goal is to being made perfect. Fight for it!!
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