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I spent years, unhappy in my marriage, feeling like I was getting the short of the deal.
Through the Bible and its truth, God has transformed my mind to see marriage as it was intended to be…a picture of Christ and His bride.
 Today, I can serve my husband with joy, knowing I am loved and valuable.  My choices and attitude are not dependent on my husband or his behavior!!  
With biblical wisdom, practical tools and a little encouragement you find joy and fulfillment in your marriage too!!

Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Forgiveness

Isn’t it interesting; we as Christians are called to forgive as Christ forgave us. I’m going to be bold here and say: This applies to our husbands too. “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32   And how exactly does “God in Christ” forgive us?   “As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.” Psalms 103:12 and “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more.” Hebrews…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesdays | A Letter to my Husband

In an effort to be a better wife, I’m going to need some feedback. Who better to give it than my husband?  Today I’m going to give this letter to my husband and I will keep you posted as to his answers when he gets around to giving the questions back to me. Honestly, I’m hoping it won’t be for some time, but if you are brave, do it with me.  If you can think of some good questions to add please comment below.     Dearest Husband, In the name of sanctification will you please honestly answer some questions…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Selflessness

    I was watching a show the other day where the couple kept switching the furniture back to the way they wanted it as soon as the other spouse left the house. Though I understood the feelings behind it, the action sort of took me aback. We should leave things the way our spouse wants them (I mean they should too, but we can only work on ourselves, right?). It’s interesting thought because so many battles in marriages come down to basic selfishness. Really the key is selflessness. Our pastor always says, “the best marriage is one with 2…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday |Stop Fighting

  Dictionary.com defines striving as follows:   strive verb (used without object), strove or strived, striv·en [striv-uhn] Show IPA or strived,striv·ing. 1.to exert oneself vigorously; try hard: He strove to make himself understood. 2.to make strenuous efforts toward any goal: to strive for success. 3.to contend in opposition, battle, or any conflict; compete. 4. to struggle vigorously, as in opposition or resistance: to strive against fate. 5. to rival; vie.   Wow!   Seriously though, stop striving!!!     Do not try so hard to make yourself understood. Do not strive to win or have success. (against your husband.) Do…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Maintenance

  Well, maintenance, I think that’s what my mom calls it anyway…you know the general upkeep of something…or in this case someone. You know I feel strongly about being a godly wife.   Say kind words, be respectful, don’t nag, receive encouragement, don’t complain, and be transparent, but I don’t often talk about the visual aspects of ourselves that merit a little attention. Although I think it’s important to be healthy and exercise, I think there are things we need to be doing for our husbands regardless of body type or comfort level.  I’ve been married 7 years, most of which…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday |Praying

There isn’t much in me these days that isn’t just going through the motions.  Today I’m going to pray for my husband in hopes it really does make me a better wife.     Lord, thank you for my husband. Thank you for his provision and work ethic. Please God let him always seek to please You first. May he choose You over any selfish ambition. Let him always choose to find his desire only in me, his wife. Let him always choose to spend tons of quality time with our precious children. Give him wisdom from above that is…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Words Your Husband Needs to Hear

  Rough waters have hit our home and I notice the effects, even in my marriage.  The stresses of life can overwhelm us, but sometimes I forget they might be overwhelming my husband too. As I was pondering what to write for today’s post, I thought of this week’s events.  There was injury, heartbreak and trials up the wazoo! There were these few moments though when I saw my husband’s face light up.  There were things, I didn’t even know he needed to hear. Words, I thought I was saying out loud more for myself than anything else, but they…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Suck It Up

  Sometimes there is just nothing else to do as a wife and mom, but suck it up.  This is proving to be a “suck it up” sort of week in our home.  Our precious one year old has 2 casts on her legs, a sad story for another post, I have a gnarly sinus infection, and my husband is studying like mad for some promotional tests at work he will be participating in on various days over the entire month of June.  I’m 18 weeks pregnant and by the way we have 4 children under the age of six,…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | A Baseball Game and Jealousy

    My husband is at a baseball game with his friends. I love baseball. Our first date was a baseball game. I miss talking sports. I don’t like to do fun stuff without my husband (or apparently have him do fun stuff without me)  😉 When he gets home I will choose not to complain. I will not be unkind due to my petty jealousy.    Today the best I can do is try my best to be happy for my husband. He is out having fun while I take care of our precious children.   Please share any…

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Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Transparency

If I’m really honest with myself, it’s difficult to be really honest with my husband. It’s difficult to share with him my failures, my insecurities and fears. I’m pregnant and emotional, so I’m hoping my latest over sense of emotion is from an influx of hormones. This entire preface to say I’ve been feeling insecure. I’ve been feeling old and fat and really questioning the truth of: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”  Proverbs 31:30 Boy, I could tell you that beauty is passing, for Pete’s sake, my…

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