Not to be confused with Let it Go…
Some time ago we had a post called Let it Go. The message was more on forgiveness.
Just to clarify, today’s post is regarding selfishness, the desire to have your own way and the sense of entitlement (however so slight) that can creep into our everyday thoughts and actions.
A point of contention in our house is the direction the silverware goes into the dishwasher. Now, I’m not going to say there is a right or wrong here, but just to be nice, let’s simply discuss this as an area of “personal preference.”
When we were first married there were a great many habits in regard to “homemaking” I didn’t, well, let’s just say, have a knack for. Honestly, there were matters, specifically in this area of life which were very important to my husband that I, frankly, couldn’t have cared less about. However, I had decided to be a dutiful wife and always worked diligently to do certain tasks the way my husband preferred them.
Ah, to have the sweet mindset of a new wife.
Now, not to toot my own horn, but I did learn how to fold shirts, towels, socks, underwear all completely different than I had been doing for 20+ years. I learned to pick up after myself, make my bed and not leave a sink full of dishes. I even learned to put the silverware FACE UP.
Now, I know for a fact I had to learn to put the silverware FACE UP because my mother had always preferred the silverware face down. I KNOW I’m not confused about which direction my mother preferred the silverware because she had surgeries on her eyes as a child and she can not stand to have anything remotely pointy at all facing her direction. Hence, a woman who likes her silverware DOWN!!
Well, back to present day.
Recently, I don’t know in the last year or so, my husband has started putting the silverware down again. He maintains he has always put the silverware down and I have been flabbergasted…literally appalled that for the last 8 years I have been putting the silverware UP to appease him.
Now, if I was a better wife, and a better person, I would have been overjoyed to go back to my old ways of putting the silverware down in the dishwasher.
But, I am not a good enough person to tell you that is what I have been doing. Because, what I have been doing is purposely and consciously putting the silverware up out of spite.
Now, I know, you may be thinking this isn’t that bad. Really? Is this what today’s post is all about?
See, it’s a heart issue. My heart should be to please my husband. My heart should be to do things the way he likes them. He does often unload the dishwasher!!! He even loads it enough that I’ve been annoyed he has been DOING IT WRONG. OK, OK, not wrong, but different.
The whole truth is we load the entire dishwasher differently from each other.
BUT WHO SHOULD REALLY CARE?!?!!?
So, as a wife who has been subtly feeling she could do as she pleased because it was what she wanted to do and it was HER house to manage, I beseech you. Give it up!!
Please your husband.
Just do it the way he likes because you love him and it’s his home too.
May you be the wife God is calling you to be, every day.
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