Be A Better Wife Wednesday | Pride Brings Strife

“By pride comes nothing but strife,
But with the well-advised is wisdom.”  Proverbs 13:10

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Every now and then I find myself standing alone somewhere in the house baffled at how my husband and I just ended a conversation.  We will both be upset and  my first instinct will be to either

  1. Defend myself
  2. Repeat myself
  3. Clarify what I “meant”

When, I’m in my “first instinct” mode, I’m almost alway thinking about myself.  It’s easy to get caught up in my wants and “needs” and feel like I’m not getting my way…again.

But isn’t that where the strife comes in?!?! Strife comes in when two people, married or otherwise want to put themselves before the other person. I’m actually annoyed at this very moment at one of my children who wants to ask me questions, while I’m trying to get this written…ah, but it’s not Monday 😉

I’ve heard it once said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”

I will ask you today to look for something new.

If there is strife in any relationship in your life, including your marriage will you be sure the first place you check is your pride?


  • Who are you in Christ?
  • What has God forgiven you?
  • Is the problem that you are not getting your way?
  • Are you thinking of the other person as more important than you?
  • What are you really upset about? Is it selfish?
  • Is the root of why someone is upset with you, your selfishness?

Seek wisdom, friends. Self-gratification is going to bring strife.

Confession: My husband is better at being selfLESS than me.  He is quick to give me the best of everything and I’m quick to take it. I fight against my “only child” brat characteristics daily…

The best way I have found to fight my pride is to serve my husband. If you are married, enjoy the blessings. Focus on your husband and stop being worried about yourself.

*Disclaimer, many of you are FAR LESS SELFISH THAN ME.  If you find yourself in a place where your husband is telling you things like, “you are too hard or yourself.” or “you are taking on too much” then you need to relax a bit.  Don’t let this post drive you to a place of comparing yourself to others. That is prideful too!! It’s not about you, or how you stack up.

Make it about our God, then your spouse.  🙂

Happy Wednesday!!

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Nickole Perry
Hi! I’m Nickole (note the spelling. my mother did that.) I’m a domestically challenged wiper of bottoms and noses! I’m a coffee drinking, bacon eating mama who loves Jesus and has been pregnant or nursing (sometimes both) for the last 9 years!

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